FOR THE BEREAVED: New Year’s Resolutions Can Become Solutions
Updated: Jan 9
By Jill S. Cohen, NYC family grief counselor
Welcome, 2020. Like it or not, here it is. And everyone is talking about resolutions.
As a grief counselor, I know that the bereaved want to FIND SOLUTIONS, NOT MAKE RESOLUTIONS.
And I agree, we all want solutions for our grief challenges. Sometimes the resolutions can lead to solutions. What do I mean by this? If you resolve, for example, to do something nice for yourself every day, this may turn out to be a solution to your body and mind feeling worn out all the time. That “nice thing” that you do -- a haircut, a massage, going to a movie -- may help you cheer up, if only for a little while, or feel better about yourself as a result. If you resolve to cry when you need to, laugh when you can -- both without guilt, this might be a solution to your being upset or embarrassed about crying all the time or not laughing enough.
To try some resolutions that could lead to solutions, read the New Year’s Resolutions for the Bereaved, prepared by Tanya Lord, co-founder of the GriefToolbox.com.
And by the way, here’s my first tip/resource for the new year. Go to Grieftoolbox.com and check out the very many resources on the site, including grief support groups in your area.
And to all the Bereaved out there, I wish you a new year of healing, recovery, as smooth a grief journey as possible, and hope that you get all the support you need as you navigate this tough time in your life.
For grief counseling complimentary consultation, go to my calendar here and book a 30-minute call with me. You might find that working with a grief counselor will help you move forward more beneficially than without support.