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Note to Jewish grievers: Enjoy Some Apples and Honey for A Sweet New Year (Anyway)

By Jill S. Cohen, NYC family grief counselor

All over the world, Jewish people will soon be celebrating Rosh Hashanah, the start of a new year on the Jewish Calendar, with wishes all around for a “happy and sweet new year” -- signified by dipping apples into honey, and greeting one another with “Shana Tova”, the Hebrew words for the greeting “A good year.”

For those in mourning periods or grief-stricken from the recent death of a loved one, it’s hard to imagine a “good year” coming up. However, this time of the year, when the holiday presents the opportunity to wish and hope for a “good year,” a griever can take a moment to reflect on what a “good year” what might look like, especially in the context of having experienced the death of a loved one.

For sure, it doesn’t mean that “grief ends.” But, it might mean that you …

  • Adjust to your new normal a little bit more each day

  • Reframe your sadness by acknowledging beautiful memories

  • Continue your bonds with your loved ones through thoughts and actions

  • Focus better at school, work, parenting, and other daily activities

  • Accept support from your friends, relatives, and neighbors when they offer

  • Take a vacation for a change of scenery, to renew and reinvigorate yourself

  • Sleep better at night, with fewer nightmares and anxiety

  • Return to exercise to lift your spirits and release tension

  • Name any other things that might mean a “good year” for you

If you take a few moments this holiday season to reflect on this, I think that you might see that the possibility of “a good year” can lie ahead.

Remember, we know that we don’t stop grieving and bury it forever, but we find a new way to incorporate our loved one into our life.

We don’t “move on,” but we “move forward”.

And so, I wish my readers a “Shana Tovah” … a “good year” ahead.

For more information on the benefits of grief counseling, CLICK HERE.

Or reach out and email me at jillgriefcounselor@gmail.com.


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