FAMILY GRIEF SERVICES
You may need grief counseling if you find it hard to accept the "New Normal" after a significant loss.
Here’s why it can be a helpful and valuable experience.
“When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.”
--- Fred Rogers
“Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve.”
--- Earl Grollman
GRIEF STRATEGY CALLS
Grief Strategy - Where do you start?
Talking to children and teenagers about death can be very challenging. Is your family experiencing a difficult situation involving the death of a loved one – a family member, a special pet, a teacher, a relative, or a friend?
You might benefit from a grief strategy call, where I can help you navigate how to discuss grief with your children or teenager.
WHAT IS FAMILY GRIEF?
In order to process a significant loss a griever must:
Find the words to express the loss
Be in a safe place where you can say those words aloud
Know that the words have been heard
Though all grievers need to experience these three milestones, learning to live with the loss of a loved one affects children and adults in different ways.
“A child can live with anything as long as he or she is told the truth and is allowed to share with loved ones the natural feelings people have when they are suffering.”--- Eda LeShan
If you give a child the gift of grief counseling, the child’s experience will include:
Anger /energy work
Sharing stories and ideas
Relevant story time and discussion
If you give yourself the gift of grief counseling, your experience will include:
Giving yourself permission to grieve.
Grieving in privacy in your own way.
Sharing stories and memories
Learning about resources
Feeling your emotions, sadness, anger, guilt, fear, shame, loneliness, worry with someone to listen to them
“Honest listening is one of the best medicines we can offer the dying and the bereaved.” (Jean Cameron)
JILL COHEN’S GRIEF COUNSELING PROMISE:
You will feel safe and comfortable.
Our conversations will be kept confidential.
You will feel supported.
You will receive guidance, resources and coping tools.
You will emerge from the experience more resilient and more able to function in your "new normal".
Three things in human life are important:
The first is to be kind, The second is to be kind, The third is to be kind - Henry James.
For well over a decade, I have specialized in bereavement counseling for adults and children. I have created magic and given the experience of “I’m not alone” to people from age 3 to 73 (and older!). I have worked with hundreds of children at Comfort Zone Camp, the nation’s largest bereavement camp for children. My experience has also included adult support groups at the United Hospice of Rockland and Healing Hearts children’s grief groups as well.
I am certified in Thanatology, the study of Death, Dying and Bereavement, through ADEC, the Association for Death Education and Counseling.
For me, Grief counseling is a passion of mine and a gift to share with others.
Whether you grieve the death of a parent, a spouse, a child, an adult child, a friend, a colleague, a partner, a classmate, a relative or any special someone,
BEREAVEMENT IS BETTER when someone is present to see your tears and hear your fears, to validate your feelings, to listen to your stories, to help you process the act of mourning, to help you create rituals and continuing bonds, to bear witness to your loss.
Everyone should have a safe place in their grieving and healing process and have a safe haven in which to feel feelings, share stories, ask questions, seek advice and learn how to cope, slowly but surely.
I admit that grief is no fun at all, but there are coping tools and ways to grieve healthfully.
A few of my philosophies:
Nobody should have to grieve alone.
Every loss is a significant loss to the person who is experiencing it.
“You should be over it” is a myth. Everyone grieves at a different pace.
Grief stinks. There’s nothing fun about it, but we can find enjoyment through the process of continuing bonds.
It’s okay to cry. It’s not a sign of weakness
Children and adults grieve differently. A child grieves in ways that may not be apparent to adults, but they are grieving.
YOU DESERVE SUPPORT!