Amidst the Grief, Enjoy Some Apples and Honey for A Sweet New Year
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A Day to Celebrate New Beginnings, While Remembering Those We Lost
All over the world, Jewish people will soon be celebrating Rosh Hashanah, the start of a new year on the Jewish Calendar, with wishes all around for a “happy and sweet new year” -- signified by dipping apples into honey, and greeting one another with “Shana Tova”, the Hebrew words for the greeting “A good year.”
And this year, Rosh Hashanah falls on September 11, which is a day of collective mourning and grief in the world, remembering the tragic event twenty five years ago in NYC when terrorists struck the Twin Towers at the World Trade Center. For those in mourning periods or grief-stricken from the recent death of a loved one, it may be hard to imagine a “good year” coming up.
However, since this holiday presents the opportunity to wish and hope one, a griever can reflect on what a “good year” what might look like, especially in the context of having experienced the death of a loved one.
For sure, it doesn’t mean that “grief ends.” However, it might mean that you:
Adjust to your new normal a little bit more each day
Reframe your sadness by acknowledging beautiful memories
Continue your bonds with your loved ones through thoughts and actions
Focus better at school, work, parenting, and other daily activities
Accept support from your friends, relatives and neighbors when they offer
Take a vacation for a change of scenery, to renew and reinvigorate yourself
Sleep better at night, with fewer nightmares and anxiety
Return to exercise to lift your spirits and release tension
Name other ways that might mean a “good or better year” for you
Here is an article from whatsyourgrief.com about adapting to a new grief at Rosh Hashanah:
We know that we don’t stop grieving and bury it forever, but we find a new way to incorporate our loved one into our life.
We don’t “move on,” but we “move forward”.
And so, I wish my readers a “Shana Tovah” … a “good year” ahead. And I convey those wishes with the awareness of the grief that resides somewhere in all of us.
My wish for those who experienced loss from the 9/11 attacks, is a sense of comfort.
